What's happening to people’s legal problems during this pandemic? The courts are basically closed. For some people, that’s okay because their legal problems have taken a back seat to keeping their families safe and healthy.
But others are anxious to resolve their cases. They want to put the divorce behind them and move on with their lives.
In fact, the virus has created new legal problems. Some parents don’t see eye to eye about parenting under the “Stay at Home” rules. Others have lost their jobs and either need more child support or are unable to pay it.
Are you one of those people who has a court case and is anxious to resolve it? Are you looking for help just to figure out parenting time and child support over the next few months? If either sounds like you, where can you go to get help? I am happy to announce that I am conducting online mediations. Everyone appears online: you, your ex, and your lawyers if you have them.
So, what happens in mediation? I help you resolve your disputes. I provide a safe space where you can share your thoughts and feelings in hopes that the two of you can figure out a solution. I don’t make decisions for you, but I help problem solve. If you have a lawyer, your lawyer is encouraged to participate in the process.
Although most people probably would prefer face-to-face mediations, there are some advantages to online mediations: you can mediate from the comfort of your home and you don’t have to physically be in the same room as your ex. Best of all, you can do this now!
Divorces can be very emotional. After all, no one gets married to get a divorce. People feel sad, angry, bitter, and hurt.
So, is it okay to get emotional during mediation? Before we answer that question, here’s another: is it okay to cry when you are in front of a judge? Is it Okay to yell when you are in court? Call someone names? Usually, no. Judges don’t like emotional displays. Don’t raise your voice, don’t project hostility, and don’t cry.
And, think about it, most people would rather not get emotional in court. It is, after all, a public setting. It’s a room full of strangers: lawyers, the judge, the court reporter, and the clerk. Plus, here might people sitting in the back of the courtroom for their case to be called. Who wants to get upset in front of all of those people?
Mediation is far different. Although I work with many couples who get along very well, it isn’t uncommon for someone to break down in tears. Or to lash out. As people face the reality of spending less time with their children, or having less money to spend,, they get upset.
Is it okay to get emotional during mediation? The answer is yes, tears are fine. Anger, within reason, is okay, too, as long as the anger doesn’t become abusive, it is perfectly fine.
When you get emotional in mediation, there are only a few people in the room: your spouse, me, and perhaps lawyers.
Divorce is a very emotional time. It would be unfair to expect people to behave with complete rationality during mediation.